Want to add a little to the previous post on happiness – and look at another way of getting to that elusive goal of being happy or flourishing as a human (Thanks, Shan for the comment that sparked this). Will start where the last post left off – with the Pythons and them talking about always looking on the bright side of life. The idea of human flourishing and fulfilment might be good starting point but for others, happiness might just be the act of getting out of the doldrums and reducing the amount of negatives that they have in their lives.
Problem lies in the individual – if a person focuses on negatives and worries, he or she might be flourishing and not even realise it. What is one to do then? Will go out on a limb and suggest that sometimes, the negatives and worries aren’t what they seem and that quite often, we focus on things that are either out of our control or are negative because of the way we see things at the moment. We’re sometimes stuck in a particular way of thinking and tend to see the half empties more than the water in the glass and that in itself can reduce our happiness quotient considerably.
The idea of attachments to things around us was mentioned in something I read last evening and that in itself might help on this front. It was about attachments and programming – we’re often programmed to be attached to things that we have and see around us and if that’s not with us or if we’re somehow not getting those things, we might feel sad or somewhat unfulfilled (hence unhappy). Could be anything – money, the way people treat us, what we’re doing on a day-to-day basis – we are constantly told what to do and how to lead our lives. Problem is that what we’re told to do is often not consonant with what we ourselves want to do. Trick there is to find out what makes us tick and how to get there.
Was stressing the idea of self-awareness to the students that I teach over here because that lies at the core of how we learn and how we can do better at what we do. After repeating that line so many times, I’m even more convinced that if we’re aware of what we want and how we want to get it, we can get closer to the idea of being happy (or at least happier). Being aware of what we can and cannot change would enable us to reduce on the worries and get back on track with what we should be doing. This might work no?